Equal Rights and Chivalry
My position in life as to whether or not I consider myself a feminist is very much up for debate. Certainly I feel that a woman in a corporate position should be paid equal to her male counterpart for the same work. However, at the end of the day I think being an entrepreneur can eliminate that worry since you create your own paycheck. But that's another story for another post. I feel that women have just as much talent, potential, and capacity as men do. So, even though I feel that equality in this sense should certainly be mandatory, I also feel a yearning to feel special as a "lady" and to feel the support of gentlemanly gestures because, I also feel that our strengths are different and that there are many ways to make this world go 'round.
Therefore: just because I want to be equal in the sight of society when it comes to daily tasks, does that mean I am also giving up the right to have my door held open or help with my coat, etc.?
One couple my husband and I are acquainted with are very successful. They own their own business and are leaders in their community. Both husband and wife in the partnership are seen as the head of their organization and they both are equally accountable for mentoring and coaching. In essence, everything you want to see in the image of equality. The husband, though, still puts gas in the car for his wife, holds the door open for her when entering cars or buildings, and holds her chair out for her at restaurants. I've seen this with my very own eyes.
So it got me thinking. Is it really possible to want to be equal in a business and social manner, but still relish in the endearing qualities of the masculine caretaker? I'd like to say it's more possible than not, however, I think this couple was the exception and definitely not the rule. What are your thoughts?